images_33We compromise on things every single day.

Your job isn’t perfect. You put up with it for 8-10

hours a day.

You don’t agree with your boss but you do as he directs.

Your friends and family aren’t perfect. You put up

with them for the rest of the time.

We make choices and yet we know the consequences will weigh us down.


But wait.

You’d make adjustments if you didn’t feel good

about your body. You know hitting the gym and eating healthy.

You’d make adjustments if your financial statement are

not balancing (income and expenditure).

You’d make adjustments if you alienated your co-

workers and wanted to feel better from 9-5 every


We’re constantly making adjustments in life: socially, financially etc.


But we tend to forget something!

The time we spend knowing people and falling in love with them.

Should it be any news that it’s the one arena

in which you struggle the most?

And sometimes can’t handle yourself?


You know what you want?

You want someone like you.

You want someone who is as intelligent as you are.

One who earns as much as you do or more.

In short you want a smart person, you know one you

can take out for office cocktail, introduce to your friends and family.


That’s seems like business partners!

You know, one you can trophy around as CEO and COO.

What about one you can relate with?

Ooh…you can’t adjust your standards, I almost forgot.


And yet you still say you want a man who is

smarter than you are.


Sounds like a pretty exhausting relationship, doesn’t it?

You know something about smart people? Let me tell you.

They live in their heads. They’re somewhat tortured. They

know what they’re worth. They have enough

information and ammunition to be impossible to

argue with. They can be endlessly fascinating and

even more frustrating.

This is my story.

I am (like many) attracted to smart intelligent men.

You know, we can hold a conversation about anything.

They challenge me. Not a man who only reads a newspaper.


But don’t get it wrong.

It does mean that you need to accept men or women who are

not in the 98th percentile of intelligence, and

recognize that there are plenty of amazing, bright,

relationship-oriented men who may not be smarter

than you.

We are talking about comprises.

You comprises about a lot of things and

relationships should be inclusive.

Are you willing to carry him or her as a trophy or as a gift?

Trophies are for a season and show off while gifts are treasures.


About trophies.

Most of your time is usually spent talking about

fixing up the house, raising our daughter, planning

our next vacation, figuring out what we’re going to

have for dinner, balancing bank accounts and buying assets.


About gifts.

Most of your time will be enjoying each others company.

Laughing and crying together.

Learning about each other.

Growing old together and solving issues as they arise

without thinking of divorce papers or checking his email

messages or clothes for lipstick stains.


In conclusion. You have a choice.

If you believe in self-help, if you’ve read books

about spirituality, if you’ve gone to shrinks and

taken weekend seminars, and yet you still think your

husband or wife has to be on the exact same wavelength

as you?

Sorry. But you can adjust.

He/she doesn’t.

They just have to respect you. And you have to respect




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