We compromise on things every single day.
Your job isn’t perfect. You put up with it for 8-10
hours a day.
You don’t agree with your boss but you do as he directs.
Your friends and family aren’t perfect. You put up
with them for the rest of the time.
We make choices and yet we know the consequences will weigh us down.
You’d make adjustments if you didn’t feel good
about your body. You know hitting the gym and eating healthy.
You’d make adjustments if your financial statement are
not balancing (income and expenditure).
You’d make adjustments if you alienated your co-
workers and wanted to feel better from 9-5 every
We’re constantly making adjustments in life: socially, financially etc.
But we tend to forget something!
The time we spend knowing people and falling in love with them.
Should it be any news that it’s the one arena
in which you struggle the most?
And sometimes can’t handle yourself?
You know what you want?
You want someone like you.
You want someone who is as intelligent as you are.
One who earns as much as you do or more.
In short you want a smart person, you know one you
can take out for office cocktail, introduce to your friends and family.
That’s seems like business partners!
You know, one you can trophy around as CEO and COO.
What about one you can relate with?
Ooh…you can’t adjust your standards, I almost forgot.
And yet you still say you want a man who is
smarter than you are.
Sounds like a pretty exhausting relationship, doesn’t it?
You know something about smart people? Let me tell you.
They live in their heads. They’re somewhat tortured. They
know what they’re worth. They have enough
information and ammunition to be impossible to
argue with. They can be endlessly fascinating and
even more frustrating.
This is my story.
I am (like many) attracted to smart intelligent men.
You know, we can hold a conversation about anything.
They challenge me. Not a man who only reads a newspaper.
But don’t get it wrong.
It does mean that you need to accept men or women who are
not in the 98th percentile of intelligence, and
recognize that there are plenty of amazing, bright,
relationship-oriented men who may not be smarter
We are talking about comprises.
You comprises about a lot of things and
relationships should be inclusive.
Are you willing to carry him or her as a trophy or as a gift?
Trophies are for a season and show off while gifts are treasures.
Most of your time is usually spent talking about
fixing up the house, raising our daughter, planning
our next vacation, figuring out what we’re going to
have for dinner, balancing bank accounts and buying assets.
Most of your time will be enjoying each others company.
Laughing and crying together.
Learning about each other.
Growing old together and solving issues as they arise
without thinking of divorce papers or checking his email
messages or clothes for lipstick stains.
In conclusion. You have a choice.
If you believe in self-help, if you’ve read books
about spirituality, if you’ve gone to shrinks and
taken weekend seminars, and yet you still think your
husband or wife has to be on the exact same wavelength
Sorry. But you can adjust.
They just have to respect you. And you have to respect