THE PROPOSAL

 

He is never good at surprises or maybe it’s always the wrong timing. I have told him once and again that he will end up surprising himself. But I think we are always in a battle or rather he is always in a battle of trying to prove me wrong. Everytime I proved him wrong I made a victory dance which he hates. The victory dance must always be accompanied with a wink and a sarcastic smile. One the other hand I love every bit of it.

We talked about everything and I had no double that I am totally sold out. But this time I really didn’t care. That’s what I had always wanted. In fact it’s more than an answered prayer. I am assured and totally convinced that that was it, it was right. I felt the goose bumps and butterflies. I was not anxious but happy. The peace within was overwhelming.

On that day he came up with an insane idea of hiking. I really hate crawling animals and he knew that. To make it sound hard, he refused to disclose the hiking location. It was actually a bet that the loser will write a 32 pages (A5) love note for the other with no repetition in a week’s time. I loved writing and losing won’t be a punishment for me. But since I hate losing, I agreed. He is a number’s guy and writing can be taskingnfor him (though he suggested the punishment).We were to hike on a weekend and he had told me of it on a Monday. That day after work, I walked into a sports shop to buy a pair of sport shoes (my legs had suddenly grown bigger and the one in the closet didn’t fit). I found real cute pink and lime green sport shoes.

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The following day I tried to do some exercise, which I did, but the following morning my muscles were hurting. I did these excises for four days. One the d-day, which was a Saturday, he came by my house to pick me up. The well dressed and exited me freaked him out. I have this saying, when you are most afraid, fake courage no one can tell the difference. The truth was, I was really scared. First, I was not sure if I should just admit loss or I should just proceed. Second, the last time I went hiking my muscles hurt for two weeks and worse still a twisted ankle. Finally, I had a wedding to attend the following day and dancing is what makes the attendance memorable.

We were now on our way but stopped by a supermarket for some snacks and water. He also bought some painkillers and Elastoplast for the first aid kit.

The hiking was to take place some 100 kilometers from where we were. The place was really cold with forests everywhere (name withheld) but favorable conditions for hiking. Starting time was 8:30 am and finishing time was 3:00pm. To cut the long story short. I won the bet. He didn’t know that I was familiar with the place. At about 1:00 pm he was exhausted, sweaty and couldn’t move an inch. On the other side I saw feeling great. He conceded.images_61

In the car, I stared at him to get his attention. He diverted his focus from the road to me and there I winked, tuned on the Radio for some music, raised my hands for the dance. The guy was really furious and had all this crazy idea that I might have taken something to boost my energy. I looked at him and smiled then told him that I had hiked there on several occasions before. Since he had refused to disclose the location, he surprised himself as usual.

Two weeks after, we met so that he could hand over the book. On this day everything was perfect, he called earlier than usual to confirm that we will be meeting and that he will be picking me up. That was odd. He is the kind of person who calls an hour to the meeting to confirm attendance. An hour to the meeting I called him but his phone was off. I tried his office extension and someone picked who informed me that he had stepped out about 30 minutes ago.

Everything was now going south. I called his phone again after an hour but it was still off. I scrolled through my phone book and called a friend of his who told me that he had not seen him. My heart was unsettled. Still in the office 30 minutes after our agreed time, I called again. He picked up excited (this is the point I felt like hanging up). On my side I was mad! I was anxious about him not picking up his call and yet on the other side the guy seemed to have been enjoying himself. First I wanted to know why he had arranged for a meeting yet he was unreachable and 30 minutes late.

I asked him where he was and why he was late. Apparently he was swimming.  That was odd. Why would he be out for swimming on  a Monday at 5:30pm? I was mad not to ask more questions. He quickly said that he had sent someone to pick me up about 20 minutes ago.Before I could respond, a gentleman came to the office to pick me up.

On arrival to the hotel were he was swimming, I was ushered to the table on the balcony by a waiter. The gentleman who had picked me disappeared. I ordered for some water to try and calm my nerves. After 12 minutes he walks in with a short and t-shirt. The guy was just a mess. He hugged me and was breathing heavily. Apparently he was from the gym. Everything was not adding up. Earlier he said, he was swimming now he is from the gym. I thought it should be the other way round (gym then swimming). I asked him what he was up to, the swimming and gym on a Monday. He shouted that he was keeping feet.

After 15 minutes of my one word answers, I asked him to give me the book because it was getting late. He said it was in the car. He left for the book but again took long. I was exhausted after a long day and was not in any mood for drama. I script on one of napkins on the table that I was out and signed. As I was heading down stares on the second floor, he was there with our friends all dressed in white stepping on red rose petals. images_57

I was still mad and decided not to be a party in anything he was up to. I stood stared at them for 1 minute then proceeded to go down (heading towards them). Unfortunately that was the only exit from the hotel. On the last stare case before I could step on the petals, I noticed they had  red burning candles and he was also dressed in white. The scene was beautiful, I smiled. I really didn’t know what happened to me walking past them. Music was playing on the background (God blessed the broken heart and lead me straight to you). A waiter gave him a microphone. He did a mic check and told me about the bet punishment and that he had the book with him. I was very emotional. One of his friends handed other a book to him. It was beautiful. It had a cover of a picture we took a year ago. He opened and read it out word for word. I was very emotional as he read. On finishing the last sentence, he was on one knee.

This time he didn’t surprise himself. He had it all planned. I stared at him for about 3 minutes and winked (we had this tradition that when I wink especially after he has requested for something, it was a no). He stood and started singing the song playing on the background. It was a teaser since he was dramatic that evening. There he was again on one knee. I couldn’t resist and shouted a big yes. The rest is history.images_58

The following day I got an email subject, The Proposal. In the email was an outline of his plan for the proposal including the hiking bet.

It was heartfelt and beautiful.

 

 

 

 

GLOBAL WARMING: The Earth will Heal Itself 

1320_effects-imageLet’s talk about our future. The future of our generation. What will the Earth be like? Recently climate scientist from around the world met in Paris for one of the largest scientific gathering sponsored by the United Nations. However much nations met and try to come with ideas to end global warming , there is little or nothing that there legislation will help. I think the Earth has its way of healing itself. Now let’s talk about the healing.

In an interview, the Paris Conference chair Jean Jouzel said, “Global warming will never stop but there is hope. It would have be have been much easier to deal with the issue if we had started 25 years ago.

Climate change or global warming if you may is as a result of too much carbon dioxide (CO2) in the atmosphere which acts as a blanket- trapping heat and warming the planet.  CO2 is as a result of burning fossils fuel like coal, oil, natural gas and cutting down of trees. The process of the production of CO2 is seen with the emerging number of industries in the name of improving the live of man and technology.

Analysis of Global Change

As it is now, the countries that feel the gravity of global warming are Europe, Asia, and America. The question now is, why is it that the Africa Continent feels the effect less? African countries do not have extreme weather conditions, there are severe storms, reduce lake ice water, increased sea levels, increased droughts and charge in plant and animal behavior.

If we go back before colonization in Africa, life was as good as it gets. People didn’t worry about education, civilization, technology and what is now felt in the developed countries. In Africa the order of the day was live in the forest. Food was fetched from the forest which came in its natural state. They would care about starting a forest fire. They cared about where they could get their food from. If they needed vegetables or meat, they would go into the forest with spears to gather and hunt respectively.

Temperature Change

There was no need to store things in the refrigerator or heat with a microwave. They stored things using natural methods like smoking, salting, heating or drying. If one was to travel from one place to the other they would use animals. As it was, there were no industries to burn oil, gas, coal or release any toxic gases. There were no air conditioners. The weather was perfect.

On the other hand, the European and Americans had a lot to worry about. To start with, there weather patterns are extreme; from winter to summer. They had to think of ways that they would keep themselves warm during winter and how they would store food. What other way of keeping themselves warm than heating systems. Heating systems use either gas or electricity. And of course fire wood. But fire wood cannot heat an entire house or office and worse still it cannot provide enough heat. The only best alternative was gas and electricity. Electricity on the other hand is expensive for a country. If a country is to depend of electricity, they have to usenuclear energy to produce more electricity. As for gas– which most countries use- oil has to be drilled beneath the earth. From the oil they extract gases.

There countries came up with all the technology we see now, from vehicles, to electricity, to airplanes, to industries, telecommunications and everything that we enjoy now in Africa. They brought this technology to Africa. We now have industries and cars to produce toxic gases. We now mine and destroy the earth’s crust. We now cut trees for furniture. We have aped the developed countries.

Now, in the attempt to make life comfortable, the above caused more havoc with time. We have global warming. I am not in any way blaming them, of cause they had to find ways to survive. But in the aim of exploiting resources and developing, little or no attention was given to the effects that the technology will cause. Thanks to it we now have an elephant in the room.

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We now have countries coming together in conventions trying to scare the elephant. The earth has already suffered grievously. It has suffered all manner of abuses. Yet it is still surviving. It’s really a survivor. Common sense tells us that what we are doing is damaging the Earth but we heed not to this. In fact the same people who have brought us to where we are the same people who are pushing us far from recovery. With the already damaged Earth, they bring in more technology to cover up. But I am somehow convinced that it is just business. You know the supply and demand chains. We have developed more demand and they have more to supply. They have come up with GMO seeds which can survive the weather but the same seeds are harming our body. They are producing more in an aim to seek healing mother Earth but they are also producing more toxic gas.

The Earth is sick but it will heal it self 

Professor Laughlin in his book ‘The Crime of Reason’ says that you can’t discuss climate change without looking backward across geologic time. He puts ordinary rainfall into perspective to illustrate the point. The rain that now falls on the world in a normal year measures a meter –about the height of a golden retriever. The rain that has fallen since the industrial age measures 200 meters. The rain that has fallen since the age of the dinosaurs would fill the Earth’s ocean 20,000 times. The rain that has fallen since oxygen formed will fill the World 100 times.  Yet, the amount of water in Earth’s oceans hasn’t changed significantly in all of this time. In Earth’s most recent glacial melting, 15,000 years ago, the sea level rose by one centimeter a year for 10,000 years- and then abruptly stopped. The heat required to produce this melting was 10 times the total energy consumption of all human civilization.

As long as we produce and manufacture, CO2 will always be in the atmosphere.  There is no amount of conventions or legislation that will help. Everyone is in business and technology is still evolving. Anything that humans do to mitigate is a waste of time. It is natural that Governments and citizens delude themselves when they think they can make a difference.

Physical Impact of Climate Change

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The Earth has suffered much and as it. If exhausted it will take care of itself. The Earth doesn’t care if you reduce gas production, or you reduce the amount of cars on the roads or that you put measures to industries. It’s vanity.  The Earth is capable of turning excess CO2 into limestone. The Earth regulates climate change in geologic time without asking for anyone’s permission or explaining itself.

However, at the time of healing more destruction will have occurred than we ever expected. The glacial melting  (ice age)will increase sea levels and the oceans will break their boundaries. Unfortunately the countries on the Northern hemisphere will suffer greatly. Most of these countries will be washed away. Buildings will collapse, crops and animals will be destroyed and people will die

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Glacial melting

After this, the Earth will cool and it will absorb all the toxic gas. This is the truth. We can’t do anything. We are caught up with the very inventions that we thought would help us. Our invention has made us cynical.

Choices have consequences. It’s our time to eat the bitter fruit be labored.

 

MALE RESPONSIBILITY DOES NOT END AT CONCEPTION

images_31Throughout human history, children have been the consequence of natural sexual relations between men and women. Both sexes knew they were equally responsible for their children, and society had somehow to facilitate their upbringing. Even the advent of birth control did not fundamentally change this dynamic, for all forms of contraception are fallible.

But these seems to take a bend. Women have been but to the core while men are busy swimming on the shores. The storm strikes even harder when the law, which should enhance equality does not. Today women are often charged with child neglect than their counterparts. More responsibility is placed on the woman. Recently I had a case of a woman who was charged for child neglect because she took her son to his father. And actually its the father who reported the mother and testified as the complainant. What was the wrong?  The child was 5 years old and does not breastfeed. What was the need to charge her.

President Obama proclaimed that we “need fathers to recognize that responsibility doesn’t end at conception.” In a sense, of course, he is absolutely right. But theproblem is that, in another sense, he is completely wrong: Male responsibility really does end at conception. Men these days can choose only sex, not fatherhood; mothers alone determine whether children shall be allowed to exist.

Birth itself may be followed by blame rather than support. Since only the mother has the right to decide whether to let the child be born, the father may easily conclude that she bears sole responsibility for caring for the child. The baby is her fault.

It may also seem unfair to him that she could escape motherhood (by being legally allowed to prevent birth), while he is denied any way to escape fatherhood (by still being legally required to pay child support). If consenting to sex does not

entail consenting to act as a mother, why should it entail consenting to act as a father? Paternity support in this context appears unjust, and he may resist compliance with his legal duties.The mother is even worse off if, during pregnancy, tests show that the child will have a disability: Doctors often press for abortion, in order to be sure that she does not later blame and sue them for the costs of raising her child. If she does not abort, after all, she will be causally responsible for the costs and the alleged burdens that the child brings. Even her friends and neighbors may make her feel ashamed for not choosing to abort her child.

A father’s role towards the growth of a child is far more important than the child just calling him daddy. It is considered to be an important factor in a child’s

overall social competence, social initiative, social maturity and the capacity to relate to others.Fathers provide both physical and psychological support and this can even be seen in the animal kingdom. Consider a penguin family. The emperor

penguin, who is the father, takes responsibility for keeping the eggs warm throughout the freezing winter months when the female, whose nutritional level may be depleted after laying eggs, goes to the deep sea for up to two months.

At school when a child has been suspended fathers rarely show up but instead instruct mothers to go and bail out the child. On the contrary during price giving days, graduation or any other celebration, the man will now show up. A proud father and will make sure every other person in the crowd knows that he is the father.

On facebook I saw a photo of conversation duration between a mother and her children and that between the father and his children. The conversation between the mother was much longer than that of the father. I know you agree with me. Why is this the case then? Children tend to be morw free with their mother than with their fathers.

If we could stand up to our responsibilities and roles the world would be a better place.  It’s never too late to teach our children that responsibility does not end at conception. Responsibility is unending as long as that child still lives.

MALE RESPONSIBILITY DOES NOT END AT CONCEPTION

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Throughout human history, children have been the consequence of natural sexual relations between men and women. Both sexes knew they were equally responsible for their children, and society had somehow to facilitate their upbringing. Even the advent of birth control did not fundamentally change this dynamic, for all forms of contraception are fallible.

But these seems to take a bend. Women have been but to the core while men are busy swimming on the shores. The storm strikes even harder when the law, which should enhance equality does not. Today women are often charged with child neglect than their counterparts. More responsibility is placed on the woman. Recently I had a case of a woman who was charged for child neglect because she took her son to his father. And actually its the father who reported the mother and testified as the complainant. What was the wrong?  The child was 5 years old and does not breastfeed. What was the need to charge her.

President Obama proclaimed that we “need fathers to recognize that responsibility doesn’t end at conception.” In a sense, of course, he is absolutely right. But theproblem is that, in another sense, he is completely wrong: Male responsibility really does end at conception. Men these days can choose only sex, not fatherhood; mothers alone determine whether children shall be allowed to exist.

Birth itself may be followed by blame rather than support. Since only the mother has the right to decide whether to let the child be born, the father may easily conclude that she bears sole responsibility for caring for the child. The baby is her fault.

It may also seem unfair to him that she could escape motherhood (by being legally allowed to prevent birth), while he is denied any way to escape fatherhood (by still being legally required to pay child support). If consenting to sex does not

entail consenting to act as a mother, why should it entail consenting to act as a father? Paternity support in this context appears unjust, and he may resist compliance with his legal duties.The mother is even worse off if, during pregnancy, tests show that the child will have a disability: Doctors often press for abortion, in order to be sure that she does not later blame and sue them for the costs of raising her child. If she does not abort, after all, she will be causally responsible for the costs and the alleged burdens that the child brings. Even her friends and neighbors may make her feel ashamed for not choosing to abort her child.

A father’s role towards the growth of a child is far more important than the child just calling him daddy. It is considered to be an important factor in a child’s

overall social competence, social initiative, social maturity and the capacity to relate to others.Fathers provide both physical and psychological support and this can even be seen in the animal kingdom. Consider a penguin family. The emperor

penguin, who is the father, takes responsibility for keeping the eggs warm throughout the freezing winter months when the female, whose nutritional level may be depleted after laying eggs, goes to the deep sea for up to two months.

At school when a child has been suspended fathers rarely show up but instead instruct mothers to go and bail out the child. On the contrary during price giving days, graduation or any other celebration, the man will now show up. A proud father and will make sure every other person in the crowd knows that he is the father.

On facebook I saw a photo of conversation duration between a mother and her children and that between the father and his children. The conversation between the mother was much longer than that of the father. I know you agree with me. Why is this the case then? Children tend to be morw free with their mother than with their fathers.

If we could stand up to our responsibilities and roles the world would be a better place.  It’s never too late to teach our children that responsibility does not end at conception. Responsibility is unending as long as that child still lives.  Continue reading

WHEN THERE IS NO SOLUTION, THERE IS AN OPTION

images_12Sometimes the mistakes, hardships and stresses of life makes

it more interesting. Its not interesting at that moment but

when you overcome them it makes you tough. I often say

once bitten never shy. You shouldn’t shy away cause you

have an experience on what to expect and how to handle it.

I don’t understand how you can smile all day long but cry

yourself to sleep at night. How pictures never change but

people in them do. How your best friend can become your

worst enemy, or how strange it is when your enemy turns

into your best friend. How forever turns into a few short

months then you would do almost anything to get back. How

you can let go off something you once said you couldn’t live

without. How even though you know something is best for

you, it just hurts the same. How the people who once wanted

to spend every second with you, think a few minutes of their

time is too much to spare. How people make promises despite

knowing how common it is for promises to be broken. How

people can erase you from their lives just because its easier

than working things out.

We can never understand this things. We have no control of

things but we can choose not to be define by circumstances

but instead define them. Sometimes we feel like the whole

world  is on our shoulders. When you are told a joke for the first

time, it will amuse you. When said the second time you will

still be amused but when said the third and fourth time you

won’t laugh like  you did the first time cause you are now

used to it.

This is how we should treat situations when we fill their is no

way out especially if it has happened to you more that ones or

twice. Our bodies are designed to adjust. Just smile and treat

it like a regular friend, that’s an option. WHEN THERE IS NO

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IF YOU WALK WITH THE RICH YOU WILL BECOME POOR

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Richness or to be wealthy is relative. It depends with your mind set. To some food, shelter and clothing is enough and they will still consider themselves rich. To others being ahead of their peers is being rich. Some consider having a seven figure bank account and to others property or assets is a good definition of being rich. However, am not here to try and have a clear definition of being rich. However you define it is not the issue the issue here is do you consider yourself rich or poor?

So today while taking breakfast,  my dad comes up with a story he once told me. There is something about people who consider themselves rich. They assume the master position and would often look for someone who will not mind their mastership position. It is unlikely that they will go to people of their class. For instant in their day to day business they will look for an idle man who will not mind ‘helping’. Figure out a rich man with a guzzler visits his friend at 9:00am whose back account doesn’t add up to six figures. The poor fellow is seated outside his house perhaps taking a cup of tea. The rich fellow arrives and as he wants to leave, he suggests to the poor fellow if they could go to their favorite joint and eat some meat. Since the poor fellow has nothing of importance to do, he quickly rises to the suggestion. He enters the guzzler on the core driver seat and rolls down the window.

Immediately he assumes the environment. He assumes the rich states. He even behaves as though the car belongs to him. As they drive through the neighborhood, he smiles at all the passerby’s and anyone who cares to look. He does all this to turn around people’s perception and his own. He wants to be seen in a big car or that he knows such people.

On reaching the joint, he takes his sweet time to alight. He is buying time so that at least people will notice his arrival and the car. He wants people to see his status. They seat and order for five kilos of meat and perhaps several bottles of beer. The poor fellow is so happy and would want the rest of the people in the joint to feel his temporal assumed status. He has quickly been absorbed by the environment and behaves like the rich.

They leave the joint and the rich fellow heads to a hardware and buys several bags of cement. He then informs the poor fellow if they could pass-by his construction site for him to drop the said bags. The poor fellow whose stomach is full courtesy of the rich fellow, agrees to the suggestion. They proceed to the construction site where the rich fellow has erected an eight storey apartment of three bedrooms per house. They spend there like three hours. They later decide to go home. The rich fellow drops his poor friend home.

It’s about 7:00pm. A whole day of doing nothing. But to him, his stomach is full and that is what matters. In his house, there is nothing to prepare for supper. He gives his wife ksh.50 for supper and quickly announces that he is full. The rich fellow goes home and finds a well prepared buffet for supper.

I am not saying you shouldn’t have rich friends but you ought to be careful. By the way, when being misused, you won’t realize immediately. It’s only after a series of episodes that an averagely sober mind will notice. Have a sober and an independent mind.It is not enough to wish and dream or even alining yourself with rich people thinking you will be like them be careful, most of them are out to misuse you. Yes, your dreams are valid but sitting and visualizing the future and how you will be is useless. Sticking to the saying, ‘things used to be so great, but nowdays…’ blah blah blah is utterly nonsense. Forget about that and mold your future the way you want it to be. People will not always be happy when you start succeeding and some will try to hold you back but the earlier you realize the better.

However, when money comes you have to be wise. Don’t be stupid living paycheck to paycheck and never have enough. People don’t get rich on salary. Get to work, plan ahead, quit spending your money on nonsense or for show off and invest of assets not liabilities.

LAKE KENYA…

I don’t want to be a nuisance that is not my business. I would love to see all Kenyans treated equally men, women, children, Nilotes, Bantus, and Cushites. But we have lost the way; the aftermath of colonialism which we thought will bring us close has made us parallel to our love for one another. Our ancestor’s wish was for us as a country to grow economically and socially after December 12th 1963. Just after the colonialism our ecomony was at per with most of the European countries. For instant Ksh 20 was equivalent to one pound. But now we are exchanging at more than Ksh 130. This is because our leaders developed greed which set us apart and labeled us Lake Kenya. Yes, Lake Kenya.
I know there is no such lake in the books of geography or any that existed in the books of history or ever been mentioned by our ancestors. This by the way is not my invention, although I wish it was, at least I would get a change to be in the books of history. Just like me, everyone wishes to leave a mark and probably be written down as one of the person who discovered something, or lead a movement that we can now see its fruits or on the negative head one of the rebellious movements or grabbed a whole county land or caused a major havoc in the country. We all want to be known. You know and I know that everyone would like to leave a mark and would like to be remembered differently. And now that is the problem. This is the source of Lake Kenya.
However, the very reason behind this has lead to the stagnation of our country and the suffering of the poor. It has lead to the upcoming of vocabularies like the ‘big fish and small fish, if you rattle a snake you must be prepared to be bitten by it, or you should know people’..etc, I know you are familiar with these, and the list is endless. Greed has taken shape over human soul. I sometimes wish the old times before colonization set in could last forever. The spirit of brotherhood and each having an equal standing in the society was the normal. The earth’s produce was enough for all and there were surplus. Forty two baskets of surplus enough for each nation or tribe, if you may. Then we had river Kenya. We were flowing and moving. There was no monopoly or unselfish competition, no laws that infringed the rights of the poor. Young and old had a bold and underlined respect for each other. We were flowing from the mountains to the valleys and mountains and valleys and we still stacked together. One nation, one people.
But as soon as our men and women rolled up their sleeves, shed blood and scarified for us to attain independence we become stagnant. Our minds are restructured and we have become robots of the west. They only needed to spend time and think hard to invent a remote control that they would control from the comfort of their swerving seats. And like slaved we had to follow in the name of seeking aid. What aid? This/that was/is not aid – I scratch your back, you scratch my back – was a choice made by our leaders. I now agree with Dr. Ndambisa Moyo the author of ‘Dead Aid’. The aid we ‘receive’ is literally dead. It cannot grow or bear fruits. It is a log to blind our vision and expose us to more disgrace and shame.
A few years back during the reign of our second president, we ceased running or flowing if you may. We become more of a controlled state than an independent state. This virus has not only affected us as a country but as a continent. We have blocked our mind and have allowed other people to use theirs on our behalf. Yes we have universities and schools that offer the best training. We have what it takes as a nation but we have dragged ourselves in. The ‘muzungu’ notion has made us view ourselves as inferior beings. Last I checked we use everything they invented. The cars, airplanes, ships, machines, language…you name them. Everything!
Everything that we have is as a result of the muzungu except may be for our native language. It is been fifty years but what do we have to show? Our university graduates haven’t made even the slightest machine and if they have it did not last to work effectively. We have huge tenders like the standard gauge railway but who gets to ‘win’ the tender, the Chinese (a close relative of the muzungu). One thing we should know is that when they see us, they see poverty; they see needy creatures, which are at their beck and call. And from where we stand we took at them and see help, we see superior beings, we see money. They know this and have taken it to their advantage.
They are selfish human beings who live to the words, “give and it will come back to you good measure shaken together running over.” This is not in the biblical point of view and but a selfish standing. But I also don’t blame they are just smart beings making good use of their oblongata. Even God asked Moses ‘what do you have?’ we should use what we have. They have brains and are making good use of it. I am not saying we don’t, but we are not using it! We have a mindset that the grass is greener on the other side. What about we water the one we are standing on.
Finally, in times of crisis, government is not the solution but it’s the problem. People make choices and create an arsenal of democracy that leads nations to freedom. In a battle field, one has to make a choice either to win or loss. And somethings happen by choice not by chance. We have to choice either to leave on the grey circle or on the black or white circle. The government that gives you everything is a government good enough can to take everything from you. Likewise if we depend on the west solemnly they can take everything from us at their own pleasure. Therefore we can either choose to stay in the dark or light a candle!

LETTER TO MY MR.

imagesimagesI have been staring at a blank page for two days now, trying to think what to put down on paper. But I now got an inspiration- from a good friend. Marriage is not a shot in the dark or a matter to the whim and caprice of fact. It is an institution that the visualized way before meeting the compatible rib. This may not make sense because I don’t know you yet but I am sure when I met you it sure will. We may have met by now but we don’t know our ending. Sometimes I think you are taking too long to introduce yourself. But then again, I know God is preparing me and you before we bump into each other on the streets or when I open that door and It hits you on the for head or cause your phone or files to fall and break. And I know when you bend to pick them up we will see each other eye to eye. I know you will know me and I will know you but probably you will be dumbfound or I may be and its okey. Oh, It may sound as though it’s a fairytale but I am convinced beyond reasonable doubt that my dreams are valid. I know as I wait you are in a journey with God. And when you get impatient don’t give up on me. Just know that God is refining me to be that Proverb 31 woman you asked for.
However, if we have met already by now you know I may be stubborn and a little too awesome. That’s ..me. Often I don’t take no for an answer and have other faults that I don’t wanna mention here. I also know that you have your faults too. That’s human. Forgive me if I fail. Be patient with my faults. I don’t want a perfect man with a six pack or one like the guy in the Fresh Fry or Nivea advert but one we complement each other. One when I am at my worse he still brings out the best part of me. One who will love me for who me. I know God will give me the grace when He introduces you to me. I will wait for you more than the watchmen wait for the morning. And when we finally met…..
When we met, I want to love you with the love of God. I want my heart to be so lost in His love that when our hearts meet they are one in Him. I know you are so lost in Him and the only reason you will open your eyes, its ‘cause He has told you I am there by your side. Your happiness and that of our children will be my priority. I am flesh of your flesh, borne of your borne and when we met we shall be interlocked into indivisible atom. We will speak the same language, have the same vision, mission and goal. When we come together we will be one; one heart, one body and one mind.
I can see every reflection of this letter. This is not a wish, it’s a reality that will come true with time. I see you in a monkey suit waiting for me down the aisle. With a smile I have never seen before. My heart is not beating fast and my nerves are calm. I am convinced that this is right ‘cause of the peace I feel. Your smile attracts me more and I feel like telling the pastor to skip to the end. My folks trust you and my friends have no doubt about your intention. I know this is right ‘cause I spoke to Him this morning and He assured me it is. I feel like singing it is well with my soul but I know the choir will. I already see our children playing outside our house with mud all over there cloths. You join them and play one or two as I get busy in the kitchen. I see them grow and when she introduces her Mr. right, your heart sinks. You can’t imagine that she will be in another man’s hands.
I understand your plight. That’s what my daddy felt when he gave me to you. But it’s gonna be okey. I know our daughter and I have prayed for her. And when our son brings that lady home, I can tell that you are at peace. You are proud of him as he is doing what you’ve taught him. And moreso, that our family will increase. Even with our grey hair the spark is still the same. We took back and say this far it’s the Lord. I know marriage is not an easy sail but with God at the center of it all WE ARE GONNA MAKE IT!
Unfortunately my mind is not set now to meet you. My present mind is not according to His will. I have a lot of things to deal with. I have things am getting rid of. Please mention this to Him when you talk tonight. I talk to Him daily that He blesses you and keeps you away from harm. I often ask him to whisper your name or something that will give me a hit that, that’s you. But I guess His timing is always the best. And I no longer worry about the time, or that relatives will start asking, “mbona hujatuletea mtu (why haven’t you introduce him yet?).” I know I am not the author of time and I cannot argue with Him. He stopped time in the days of Joshua and He still can do that today.
Finally, my desire and prayer is that I will love you, support you archive your dreams, often tell you ‘baby its gonna be okey’, multiply what you’ve given me, be a good mother to our two kids (hoping you will agree to two), and more importantly a good wife and friend. I will meet you as God has in His plan. I know He has and will always have us in mind. Please don’t give yourself to someone else. When we met I will tell you how I have fallen in the hands of other thinking that’s you, how I have been thinking of you, how I have been writing letters to your son and daughter and why I wrote this letter to you. CAN’T WAIT TO MEET YOU! UNTIL THEN…
Your, Future wife

A LETTER TO MY BOY

To my little boy,
I know you would want to hear this from your father but he is not here now. I will let him know that I once told you this and I will stand guided. I have written two letters to your sister(s) already and was still finding the right words I can put to paper for you. But I hope of all hopes that this will help you as you grow. Son this is a summary, we live our life in phases. When one ends, another begins. Change is constant and life is short. So seize the moment and live life to the fullest, have no regrets when you do right. This you might interpret differently but I will tell you what I mean.

I have learnt so much in life and will continue to do so for the years to come. How to forgive, how to love unconditionally, not expecting anything in return, how to be innocent, how to enjoy the small things in life, and above all the awesomeness in life under the shadow of His mercies. I will tell you this without any doubt that in whatever you do learn to put Him first and He will direct your path. I want you to learn from me, my mistakes and choices do not ever wish to learn from your own mistakes. Be wise and learn from other people’s mistake.
However, son don’t be afraid of making mistakes. People make mistakes but make sure you do not make the same mistake twice. Let your mistakes be a ladder to your success. I know you will be successful for I always pray for you. You should know when mama prays good things happen, when mama prays lives are changes not more than five feet tall but mountains big and small crumple down when mama prays. Always be assured that I am praying for you when you are not, I will always be there for you. But son, this does not mean that I will not take a rod and hit you when you are wrong or won’t tell you when you are wrong. I know this might not make sense when you are young and will probably think “mama hates me” but it is because I do not want you to go astray.
I also do not want you labeled ‘mama’s boy’ or spoilt brat. I want you to grown and be a man worth of that name. I want you to be like your father because I know what kind of a man he is. Now you might not know him but when you met, you sure will agree with me.
Son, the reality of life is that in this world money answers all things. This is a scripture in the bible and I strongly agree but there are precautions because it is also the root of all evil. People can do anything for money including murder. Money is out here in plenty but how you earn them is my concern. Both legally obtained and illegally obtained. But you should know there are phases in life and people are not born and already have a million in their account. You have to sweat to earn it. Rome was not made in one day and so you will not be rich in a blink of an eye. You will go through mountains and valleys, people will deceive you, and you will think you are not naïve but you are. There are people who have gone ahead of you. Just know that choices have consequences and if you rattle a snake you must be prepared to be bitten by it.
In life you should learn to say sorry. It doesn’t matter if you are on the wrong or not. Last I checked it doesn’t cost a thing to say ‘I am sorry’. Instead you will be the bigger man and am sure you will be proud of yourself. Learn to be strong enough to know when you are weak, brave enough to face yourself when you are afraid. The bible tells us 365 times that we should not be afraid put on that armor and go to the battle field. Son, iron sharpens iron so will your problems and challenges they will toughen you. To wrap it up, gratitude is attitude. Always thank God for His blessings.
Finally son, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and EVERYHTING else shall be added unto you. Trust God and do not lean on your own understanding. You should read the book of proverbs daily. It contains wise sayings that will lead you through life. And lastly, whenever you are troubled just take if to God in prayer. He understands you more than I do. That’s what mama does. God bless you.
Your Mama.