MALE RESPONSIBILITY DOES NOT END AT CONCEPTION

images_31Throughout human history, children have been the consequence of natural sexual relations between men and women. Both sexes knew they were equally responsible for their children, and society had somehow to facilitate their upbringing. Even the advent of birth control did not fundamentally change this dynamic, for all forms of contraception are fallible.

But these seems to take a bend. Women have been but to the core while men are busy swimming on the shores. The storm strikes even harder when the law, which should enhance equality does not. Today women are often charged with child neglect than their counterparts. More responsibility is placed on the woman. Recently I had a case of a woman who was charged for child neglect because she took her son to his father. And actually its the father who reported the mother and testified as the complainant. What was the wrong?  The child was 5 years old and does not breastfeed. What was the need to charge her.

President Obama proclaimed that we “need fathers to recognize that responsibility doesn’t end at conception.” In a sense, of course, he is absolutely right. But theproblem is that, in another sense, he is completely wrong: Male responsibility really does end at conception. Men these days can choose only sex, not fatherhood; mothers alone determine whether children shall be allowed to exist.

Birth itself may be followed by blame rather than support. Since only the mother has the right to decide whether to let the child be born, the father may easily conclude that she bears sole responsibility for caring for the child. The baby is her fault.

It may also seem unfair to him that she could escape motherhood (by being legally allowed to prevent birth), while he is denied any way to escape fatherhood (by still being legally required to pay child support). If consenting to sex does not

entail consenting to act as a mother, why should it entail consenting to act as a father? Paternity support in this context appears unjust, and he may resist compliance with his legal duties.The mother is even worse off if, during pregnancy, tests show that the child will have a disability: Doctors often press for abortion, in order to be sure that she does not later blame and sue them for the costs of raising her child. If she does not abort, after all, she will be causally responsible for the costs and the alleged burdens that the child brings. Even her friends and neighbors may make her feel ashamed for not choosing to abort her child.

A father’s role towards the growth of a child is far more important than the child just calling him daddy. It is considered to be an important factor in a child’s

overall social competence, social initiative, social maturity and the capacity to relate to others.Fathers provide both physical and psychological support and this can even be seen in the animal kingdom. Consider a penguin family. The emperor

penguin, who is the father, takes responsibility for keeping the eggs warm throughout the freezing winter months when the female, whose nutritional level may be depleted after laying eggs, goes to the deep sea for up to two months.

At school when a child has been suspended fathers rarely show up but instead instruct mothers to go and bail out the child. On the contrary during price giving days, graduation or any other celebration, the man will now show up. A proud father and will make sure every other person in the crowd knows that he is the father.

On facebook I saw a photo of conversation duration between a mother and her children and that between the father and his children. The conversation between the mother was much longer than that of the father. I know you agree with me. Why is this the case then? Children tend to be morw free with their mother than with their fathers.

If we could stand up to our responsibilities and roles the world would be a better place.  It’s never too late to teach our children that responsibility does not end at conception. Responsibility is unending as long as that child still lives.

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MALE RESPONSIBILITY DOES NOT END AT CONCEPTION

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Throughout human history, children have been the consequence of natural sexual relations between men and women. Both sexes knew they were equally responsible for their children, and society had somehow to facilitate their upbringing. Even the advent of birth control did not fundamentally change this dynamic, for all forms of contraception are fallible.

But these seems to take a bend. Women have been but to the core while men are busy swimming on the shores. The storm strikes even harder when the law, which should enhance equality does not. Today women are often charged with child neglect than their counterparts. More responsibility is placed on the woman. Recently I had a case of a woman who was charged for child neglect because she took her son to his father. And actually its the father who reported the mother and testified as the complainant. What was the wrong?  The child was 5 years old and does not breastfeed. What was the need to charge her.

President Obama proclaimed that we “need fathers to recognize that responsibility doesn’t end at conception.” In a sense, of course, he is absolutely right. But theproblem is that, in another sense, he is completely wrong: Male responsibility really does end at conception. Men these days can choose only sex, not fatherhood; mothers alone determine whether children shall be allowed to exist.

Birth itself may be followed by blame rather than support. Since only the mother has the right to decide whether to let the child be born, the father may easily conclude that she bears sole responsibility for caring for the child. The baby is her fault.

It may also seem unfair to him that she could escape motherhood (by being legally allowed to prevent birth), while he is denied any way to escape fatherhood (by still being legally required to pay child support). If consenting to sex does not

entail consenting to act as a mother, why should it entail consenting to act as a father? Paternity support in this context appears unjust, and he may resist compliance with his legal duties.The mother is even worse off if, during pregnancy, tests show that the child will have a disability: Doctors often press for abortion, in order to be sure that she does not later blame and sue them for the costs of raising her child. If she does not abort, after all, she will be causally responsible for the costs and the alleged burdens that the child brings. Even her friends and neighbors may make her feel ashamed for not choosing to abort her child.

A father’s role towards the growth of a child is far more important than the child just calling him daddy. It is considered to be an important factor in a child’s

overall social competence, social initiative, social maturity and the capacity to relate to others.Fathers provide both physical and psychological support and this can even be seen in the animal kingdom. Consider a penguin family. The emperor

penguin, who is the father, takes responsibility for keeping the eggs warm throughout the freezing winter months when the female, whose nutritional level may be depleted after laying eggs, goes to the deep sea for up to two months.

At school when a child has been suspended fathers rarely show up but instead instruct mothers to go and bail out the child. On the contrary during price giving days, graduation or any other celebration, the man will now show up. A proud father and will make sure every other person in the crowd knows that he is the father.

On facebook I saw a photo of conversation duration between a mother and her children and that between the father and his children. The conversation between the mother was much longer than that of the father. I know you agree with me. Why is this the case then? Children tend to be morw free with their mother than with their fathers.

If we could stand up to our responsibilities and roles the world would be a better place.  It’s never too late to teach our children that responsibility does not end at conception. Responsibility is unending as long as that child still lives.  Continue reading

THE OVER USED ‘I’ WORD IN A MAN IS A TURN OFF 

images_30It was only initially written and filled up in the atmosphere. Now it has taken roots and some have already been established as part of masculinity. I don’t mean to be ignorant of what tend to distinguish a man by action and those who take the name by action.

I will start by agreeing that men with ego tend to be eye catching than those who don’t. However, what is the true definition of ego? Some say ego is the part of the mind that tends to act as a mediator between the force and drives. Ego is an ‘I’ word becoming more frequent in a sentence that there is never a ‘we’ in a paragraph or to the worse an essay.

The laws of grammar fail and are never a party to the story.

It’s true we women love men with ego. But that was then. Don’t get it twisted, am not saying I love ego free men either. Too much of something is poison. That’s nature. I’m talking of those sophisticated ego centered persons. The huge misplaced ego is a turn off. After the ego has perished, the true self rises from its dust like desert flowers after spring showers have swept across arid plains.

When ego is so engraved that we forget our true self, what remains is a human body having a machine heart and mind. Ego causes people not to be impartial since they don’t want to look weak. That is it, that’s the truth.  It is also equally true, that there is no way that enlightenment can be programmed and scheduled. It comes to every individual at a different time and stage in a different way.

I’ll tell you a real life story, You go out with a guy and from the pulling of your chair to the helping you put on your jacket and to the telling you goodnight all you could get out of the conversation is his life story you never asked for. He will talk about his achievements from when he used to top up his kindergarten class to his now well-paying job. He never gets to know how your day was and couldn’t notice that you have a bandage on your left arm.

The next date day you are thinking may be things will be different. You are very optimistic and would want to talk about your emotions and probably tell him that you are ailing, that you have leukemia and that if you will ever consider settling down he should know. The well-dressed you in royal purple dress can’t wait to see the prince. He picks you at your place opens the car door for you and closes it. You are thinking he is a gentleman. On reaching the designated date location, he jumps up and tells you that he has been made partner in this multinational organization. You quickly interject and tell him you had missed him. He responds with a smile (apparently to him expressing emotions is not manly and portrays a man as a weakling).

You quickly ignore the disappointment and ask him how his day was. He sips coffee and swallows it for five minutes and responds by saying, ‘I just told you I’ve been made partner”. To avoid the long face, you smile and say congratulations. He is excited and says we should celebrate. At no one point has he asked you how your day was. You assume that that is just him. You are thinking before the celebrating part, may be things have to be set on the table.

He proposes that you go met his friends who have prepared something for him as a congratulatory party. You agreed sideways. Something is burning inside of you and its getting to your throat. He looks at you and asks, “honey aren’t you happy for me?, you look disinterested and disappointed.” Without inquiring further why you have a sad face, he raises from the seat and ready to leave.

You stop him and requests that he sits down. Without giving him a chance to stay concluding, you say you have cancer. His face becomes long and says he is disappointed. You repeat, “I have cancer.” He stares blankly without saying a word. You ask, “are you not going to say anything or ask which type of cancer?”  He raises his voice and says you have ruined his evening. He continues that you should have waited until tomorrow.

Tears can’t stop running. He tells you he has no time for ailing people and walks out leaving you on the table. That becomes the end of your ever talking or seeing him.

Let’s be clear, we are wired differently. In terms of personality and character. There is no SI Unit that is set for the human race. Different for men and women. It’s all in the mind. Some are in build and others are derived from the environment, the people we interact with and the like. You know you can choose to abide or not.

The society is so hard on the boy child that it’s trying to shape him to be an immortal soul and shielding out the true human spirit. They are fooled into believing that they having a spiritual experience. The truth is we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Let’s approach the real issue. With that well-paying job, a guzzler, and a manshonett, you will feel like you are floating on hot air. No one can speak as they wish to you, even your peers. You are the number one household provider.  You mind never treat them badly out rightly but you are no way better. You might feel like you are a magnet that can attract anything you wish. But little will it don on you that those ladies, opportunities like-minded ‘friends’, you attract will not last. Its only an attraction not a permanent fixture. They will fall anytime.

LET’S BE HONEST AND CONFESS…there is more than you

YOURSAY: I WILL GET MARRIED TO A MAN WHO READS

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I lifted this from somewhere and am sure it will be worth your time.

A man who reads, I would like to believe,

knows how to put every resource he has

into good use, and with every page he turns,

I will see a promising future.

A man who reads, I would like to

believe, knows how to put every

resource he has into good use, and

with every page he turns, I will see a

promising future.

IN SUMMARY

Such a man finds it more

useful to read, rather than

aimlessly bob his head to

blaring, meaningless music.

He chooses not to spend the

half hour from town to his

destination analysing every

girl who walks into the

matatu.

He does not blindly stare out

of the window at scenery he

has seen a million times

before, and will probably see

again, on his way back home.

Growing up, like many young girls

in their teens and early twenties, my

definition of the ideal man was one

who was tall, dark and handsome.

I spent considerable time in search

of one with these perfect

combinations, but with time, I

discovered those three adjectives are

not an automatic key to marital

bliss. Since then, my list of the kind

of qualities a man who is husband

material should have, has been

changing.

I have decided I will marry a man

who reads. And not just one who

reads, but one who reads in a

matatu. I am sure this man will have

a string of virtues attached to this

single act. To begin with, it will be

easy to see his honesty, wit and

charm without much effort.

Such a man finds it more useful to

read, rather than aimlessly bob his

head to blaring, meaningless music.

He chooses not to spend the half

hour from town to his destination

analysing every girl who walks into

the matatu. He does not blindly

stare out of the window at scenery

he has seen a million times before,

and will probably see again, on his

way back home.

He instead travels with a book in

hand and promptly opens it once he

is seated. He shuts out the annoying

deafening noise from rusty speakers

with the words from a rusty old

book.

WILL NOT LAMENT IN TRAFFIC

He will not lament about the endless

hours wasted in traffic, like other

men who haven’t discovered the

beauty of reading, because he will

have spent that time constructively

gaining knowledge and being

entertained. Perhaps he will not be

reading Pride and Prejudice or Little

Women, but is it too much to ask to

meet a man who has at least read

the Lord of the Rings, before

watching the movie?

I will not mind that he has no car of

his own. I will instead focus on the

potential that will be oozing out of

his sharp mind. In time, I see myself

acquiring wealth with this man,

from the little that we will have at

the beginning. You see, if he can use

his commute to work to feed his

mind and imagine an abundant

future, I can bet that he spends the

rest of his time well. It will be

obvious that he has a job that makes

ends meet, a job that he takes

seriously.

A man who reads, I would like to

believe, knows how to put every

resource he has into good use, and

with every page he turns, I will see a

promising future.

He will also be a man who will

understand my tendency to almost

die with excitement every time I

walk into a bookstore. This man will

know better to buy me a book on my

birthday, on Valentines Day, and on

any anniversary we will have

together.

When we become wealthy, I will not

need to tell him that I prefer a walk-

in library, rather than a walk-in

closet for my shoes and bags.

I also have a feeling that he will be

handsome. I cannot imagine an ugly

man who reads. He will have a hint

of a smile lost in the story, or wear a

seriously attractive demeanour if

what he is reading is serious stuff.

The very sight of his nose buried in

a book will be the ultimate turn on

for me, and I will know that I have

found my prince charming. I tell

you, a man who reads is a heavenly

sight to behold!

I am one of those people who always

have a book in the bag, and I am

always on the lookout for a chance

to get it out and get lost in it. How I

wish to find a man who shares my

passion.

DON’T LET IT GET TO YOUR HEAD, IT’S NOT YOUR HOUSE

images_17I read a story of a man let’s call him John who spent a night under the bridge after an unsympathetic landlord evicted him from an apartment he has been living in.

John had not paid rent for months and the landlord threatened to auction his belongings. Mercifully, relatives chipped in saving him from the auctioneer’s hammer. Looking back, he now thinks the situation would have been avoided had he chosen to live within his means.images_15

To match his monthly income, he had a change of lifestyle. Rented an expensive apartment, drove a good car and could shop anything he pleases. He was employed in a factory, got all the respect he wanted from his peers and relatives. I mean life is good! He could sleep well, eat good food and wore good cloths.

John is a reflection of many young and some old people today. All we do as young people especially is investing in the toilet and peer pressure. By investing in the toilet I mean, eating expensive foods. Eating is not bad but going to Villa Rosa and the family is outrageous especially if your salary is below six figures or you are living in a rental house. After Villa Rosa, you will invest in that toilet that doesn’t even belong to you.

I am not being a miser but this is what is happening. You take a loan to buy an expensive car which am sure is not a basic need. After paying off the seller, you have to see an insurance company, then the petrol station and often the city askaris for parking fees and lastly a mechanic for servicing. From the above, you haven’t paid house rent, forgotten, that is not your house! There are electricity, water and now Tv subscription to pay. In all this you haven’t eaten nor dressed up. At the end of it all what is there to save? You still have to service your loan. And I almost forgot, you need to go for vacations outside the country!

In that job you are an EMPLOYEE. If you are in the government at least after six months or so, you will be permanent and pensionable. For the employee in someone else’s business, making money for them, you can lose your job at any time. But you might think of suing your boss for summary dismissal but where will you get the money to hire that advocate and worse still who will employ you thereafter (one who will sue you)?

After the job is gone, nightmares knock. The landlord is in business and at the end of the day your relationship with him/her is money. Since there is no money for you to give, the red devil will show up and cover his/her beautiful simile (the smile appears when she/he receives your money). Where are your friends you’ve been trying to live up to their standard? That car, where will you park it? The city askaris will not let you park without a fee. So where are you gonna park? That leather set of chairs, a 22 inch Tv, a mega Samsung fridge, that ksh. 150,000 king size bed, that bar and the rest, where are you gonna put them? The expensive (tasteless) food is invested in the toilet which belongs to the landlord and you won’t claim your position of the investment.

Before you get another job, what’s your fate? Under the bridge or your parent’s house? Where?

Don’t get it twisted, am not saying you shouldn’t live a comfortable life. All I’m saying is live within your means and aim at having a house of your own. I know with that first job you cannot buy a house or build one, but how about cutting your liabilities and instead save. You don’t have to save ksh. 10,000 and above. The little you can itaziba ufa someday. Be wise.

Don’t hugely invest on the landlord’s bank account and toilet. CHOICES HAVE CONSEQUENCES. DON’T LET IT GET TO YOUR HEAD.

GOD BLESS!

DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION

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It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about life goals or lovers, if you aren’t willing to fight for them, if you aren’t willing to get your hands dirty, to go out of your way and make an effort to hold on to them, then you just don’t want them enough.

The marriage that God wished for us divorce was not an option. However, He highlighted that a man can only divorce his wife if she is guilty of sexual immorality. God hates divorce and we need not weave some doctrinal theological synthesis around this. Man was to become one with his wife for them to fulfill his will.

Each one has a role to play. However, with the brain wash trend and technology, we each have forgotten what we are met to do. Too much attention and too much fighting has changed the whole perspective of a godly ordained institution. We are meant to feel like the relationship is too much work, but you should know that a relationship that requires no energy is a dead one.

You will often hear of marriages that have lasted 30, 20, 10 years and so on. This doesn’t mean that they are a perfect couple with nothing to fight about, it just means that they are determined to save each other in fire and make their marriage work.

Changing ones perspective involves changing the way you view your partner. Is he/she a gift or a trophy? Gifts are treasures. A trophy is only for a season. Whenever you feel you deserve the other person, you will treat them as a trophy. But when you know you don’t deserve them you will treat them as a gift.

I’ve never been married but I know there instances when things become really thick. But remember your vows, for better for worse. It means that times will not be the same. You have to be prepared when fire comes in. what is your standing; to let your house where you have invested your emotion, strength, time, money and every other thing you’ve yield for years come down to ashes or are you gonna save it?

There are times when you feel that your sacrifices are not noticed or appreciated. And often that your spouse doesn’t deserve your love. Remember we don’t love people because they deserve our love. Christ loved us even when we didn’t deserve it and even when we didn’t recognize that He sacrificed His life for us.

Forgiveness is key. Are you feeling hurt broken, need time out? This feeling will often come but this doesn’t mean that the feeling will last forever. Forgiveness is an attitude you wear everyday not an event for special occasions. You need to forgive more than the other person needs to be forgiven. Love is communicated in a number of ways and forgiveness is one of them. You don’t need a reward for showing your spouse that you love and appreciate them.

All couples have their moments of disagreements, it’s how you handle them shows whether your relationship has ripened or not. Nothing decides the health of a relationship more than how a couple argues. In a mature relationship, the couple has learned each other’s patterns of anger and adjusted well to it, you have agreed upon a way of resolving conflict. The love doesn’t fade away even on the bad days, you don’t hurt each other just because you were angry, in fact you work towards solving the issue as a team. You can even call out on each other and it won’t result into a fight, because you know your partner means well for you and you help each other to growand improve.

Resolve things with honor. Marriage is meant for mature people and not for kids. However, age is not a determination for maturity. We are human and often wrong each other but how do you resolve conflict with someone you professed to love? With pride? When the other has wronged you doesn’t mean that the day today duties will be at a standstill. For instant the fact that you are mad at him doesn’t mean that you can’t prepare his cloths or dinner. And a word on caution sex is not one of the conflicts solving mechanism.

At the courtship stage couples should agree on a conflict solving mechanism. This shouldn’t be writing but engraved in the heart that it becomes part of you. Marriage is not broken after a one day mistaken. It’s a piled up mistake and brokenness due to unresolved conflicts.

But you should keep fighting. Every man and woman deserves someone who loves them so much that he or she would be willing to fight for them tooth and nail. If you really think about it, having someone willing to fight for you, to protect you, to even fight your battles if need be, is exactly the reason human beings partnered up to begin with. You don’t have to fight with fists but fight with the decisions they make, the way they plan their  lives, the way they forgive and do all they can to keep the relationship together.

Fight for her/him, fight for your marriage. Get down on your knees. Keep Him at the center of it all. Just hold on although sometimes your hope might be gone, don’t listen to Satan’s lies. At the end of it all am sure it will be worth it.

Divorce is not an option! It’s gonna work out, just keep trying. God hates divorce and will not let you down.

ALL THE BEST! GOD BLESS YOU.

YOU CAN ADD SALT IN FOOD BUT NOT TAKE IT OUT!

images_13We often as human being are quick to do something

especially when we are excited, sad etc, basically when our

emotions are not sober. When excited we make huge promises

some of which when sober we can’t. When we are sad we

utter hurtful and hateful words that express best our feelings

and make us feel ‘better’. We are often quick at commenting

on post, some of which do not even concern us.We forget that

the tongue has the power of life and death.

I actually wouldn’t blame us, its human nature which luckily

can be controlled. In most cases when i was young, i could

cook food especially vegetable, and put more salt. At the end

of the process, the food is no longer edible due to the salt concentration

and most of the time i though adding water could help the

situation. But yes it did help in terms of reducing the

concentration of salt to the food but it however, made it taste

less. This situation was worse until i decided never again to

put salt in any food i cook. The feed back was good since it

was upto the person eating to determine the amount of salt

they wanted.

Relating this to the real world, its easy to start something

than to stop it. For instance, it can only take a match stick to

lite up a forest and days to stop the fire. With the social

network, an update or a wallpost can stimulate war but its

very hard for the same text to calm people down and if they

eventually do, many would have lost there lives. Sometimes

the little things that we don’t put much thought into when

saying or doing may cause our lives or of the ones we love.

YOU CAN ADD SALT IN FOOD BUT NOT TAKE IT OUT!

TAKE IT OUTSIDE!

With the technology era especially in the developed countries

and less in developing countries, socializing has been an alien

among people. Most of them don’t even know their next door

neighbour. As a result, we fail to note the culprits in the

community and at the end of the day they are listed as most

wanted terrorist or even attack us. The saying “Everyone for

himself and God for us all’ has its roots especially among the

Kenyans living in urban areas. Although it has its advantages,

the disadvantage over shadow them..

This has been transferred to our children who prefer being

glued on a seat than go out and play with friends. The effect

is more since its the facebook and twitter era.They have

more friends in the social network whom they have never seen

each other but talk and share alot. At the end of the day,

their bodies become weak due to lack of exercises and their

eye ache or have a dull view of things. Technology is not

everything. someone said that technology will over power

paper but a few months ago, Venezuela lacked tissue on their

shelves and had a long day importing.

And the situation becomes even worse since their parents,

who are to be good examples, fall under the same or even

worse. They are always at work and in the evening when they

are to rest they carry the whole office at home fighting with

deadlines and competition. The children who see them as role

models remain with no choice.How are these children going to

met their life partners? On the internet? How/when are they

going to learn to live like humans and not beasts? It is time

to go to our ‘original self’, go to our traditions and culture.

Its time to disconnect to connect. TAKE IT OUTSIDE!

WHEN THERE IS NO SOLUTION, THERE IS AN OPTION

images_12Sometimes the mistakes, hardships and stresses of life makes

it more interesting. Its not interesting at that moment but

when you overcome them it makes you tough. I often say

once bitten never shy. You shouldn’t shy away cause you

have an experience on what to expect and how to handle it.

I don’t understand how you can smile all day long but cry

yourself to sleep at night. How pictures never change but

people in them do. How your best friend can become your

worst enemy, or how strange it is when your enemy turns

into your best friend. How forever turns into a few short

months then you would do almost anything to get back. How

you can let go off something you once said you couldn’t live

without. How even though you know something is best for

you, it just hurts the same. How the people who once wanted

to spend every second with you, think a few minutes of their

time is too much to spare. How people make promises despite

knowing how common it is for promises to be broken. How

people can erase you from their lives just because its easier

than working things out.

We can never understand this things. We have no control of

things but we can choose not to be define by circumstances

but instead define them. Sometimes we feel like the whole

world  is on our shoulders. When you are told a joke for the first

time, it will amuse you. When said the second time you will

still be amused but when said the third and fourth time you

won’t laugh like  you did the first time cause you are now

used to it.

This is how we should treat situations when we fill their is no

way out especially if it has happened to you more that ones or

twice. Our bodies are designed to adjust. Just smile and treat

it like a regular friend, that’s an option. WHEN THERE IS NO

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GIVE IT TO YOUR KIDS

…Read and Share

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Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School

about 11 things they did not and will not learn in

school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct

teachings created a generation of kids with no concept

of reality and how this concept set them up for failure

in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!…

Rule 2: The world doesn’t care about your

self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish

something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of

high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car

phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you

get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity.

Your Grandparents had a different word for burger

flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so

don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as

boring as they are now. They got that way from paying

your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you

talk about how cool you thought you were. So before

you save the rain forest from the parasites of your

parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your

own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners

and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they

have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as

MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This

doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in

real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters.. You don’t

get summers off and very few employers are interested

in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own

time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people

actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up

working for one.images_9

GIVE IT TO YOUR KIDS THE REALITY OF LIFE!