images_7Faith without action is dead. That’s the word. That’s what

God expects from us. He says ask and you will receive

whatever you need, seek and the door will open. Yes you’ve

been praying especially for a good wife or husband but what

actions have you taken. Know something about a leap of

faith? He or she won’t magically come, you have to take

action and prepare yourself.

Here is how. First, the only reason you should date anyone is

for marriage. However, probably you are already dating but is

it for marriage? Why are you dating him or her? And may be

you re still asking God for ‘the one.’ so how should God

respond to that?

Secondly, before getting involved with anyone, you should have

your finances in place. For the guys, you know you should pay

dowry…right? You are the provider. How are you gonna own

up to that responsibility? Where will you take her, to your

mum’s house or are you waiting to inherit? For the ladies, you

also need to support him. Have your finances in place.

Third, go social. You’ve been a workerholic locked up behind

your desk. Will he or she drop from heaven to your desk? Or

probably you are checking out your workmates or clients.

That’s not advisable. Trying going to social events; weddings,

thanksgiving, church, adventure. And also try not forming

temporary wrinkles on your face. A little smile is welcoming.

Fourth, change your wardrobe. How about you dress your age

and your body. Your dressing says alot both for the guys and

the ladies. Its the first thing someone will notice even at a

distance and may start judging. Its an impression. And

somehow shows maturity and responsibility.

Fifth,to get the best you have to be the best. Why should God

entrust one of His creatures to you if He sees you don’t

deserve he or him. You cannot be equally yoke. You must

have direction in life. How you present yourself will depend

On the kind of person you attract.

Finally, know your role. You are to love her as Christ loved

the church. You are to stay faithful. You are to be a provider.

Its the man’s duty to be teachable and firm at the same time.

So are you ready to accommodate someone else in your life,

are you ready to be faithful, to be a provider?

If you have all of the above then she/he will come by soon. If

not, that how you prepare. We always prepare our fields and

plant before the rains. That’s what you should be doing.

That’s action. That’s faith in action.



Yes sometimes the answer is No. I know we all are afraid of answers or rather of the truth. We are afraid that if we ask the answer might be a No. However, we should just ask anyway. When the answer is No, rather than cursing heavens and wish it had not been written, ask and you shall receive, how about we ask Him or pray that His will be done. But its true ask and you shall receive. Remember He does not go back on His promise and His word is yes and Amen. Yes you will receive an answer but this time it’s a No. However, you got to embrace yourself because He is still faithful.
I don’t know why I am writing this article but I feel that I should. Often I have asked of Him and He has said No. I often feel like He does not understand or probably I have sinned but often I remember that He gives us any of the three answers, YES, NO or WAIT. But we are always not ready for a no. I know and hope of all hope that you know it’s because of His love that He sometimes tells us no. He probably would not what you to go to that direction.
Imagine a child who wants to play in the rain or wants ice cream in the wee hours of the morning. The parent will say no. This is not because they hate that child and do not want them to be happy. The parent foresees the best of the child. They know if they grant their request the child might end up catching a cold or pneumonia. God is like that parent and many at times our prayers are not in our best interest. Irrespective of what we think.
We like it when He says YES. We can endure it and probably hold on when He says, WAIT. But our hearts sinks and we can’t handle it when He says, NO. When He says no, we become disappointed and may start questioning our faith in Him. This is so because that was not the answer we expected. We expect that when we pray about it He will respond with a yes.
A yes might not be His will. His will sometimes is a no. We all know what is ‘best’ for us but probably in the near future the yes that we wanted might lead us into the lion’s dead or probably a furnace. Here is where His will comes in. Remember that He knew you before you were conceived in your mother’s womb. Meaning He has your whole life in plan. When what you’ve asked is not included in His original plan, am afraid His answer might be a big NO!
When we look at the life of David, he was a good man, good fearing, obedient, faithful, honest, a man after God’s own heart …name it. When he sinned against God and slept with Uriah’s wife and a child was born. Nathan told him of his sins. He fasted and prayed for God’s forgiveness. Then child become very ill and still David fasted and wore sack cloths for God to spare the child but the Child died. Was the child on the wrong? No. didn’t David pray to God to spare his life? Yes. But God’s will was that the child should die.
Again when Jesus, at the garden of Gethsemane, asked God if it was possible He should take that cup of suffering away from him. Yet not what Jesus what but what God wants. But God’s answer was a No. That is why we are here today because God’s purpose had to be accomplished.
Finally, we should always ask Him that His will be done. Even when He says no, we should be assured that He is faithful, was faithful and will always be faithful.